Learning Lessons The Hard Way.
Before you get married you constantly hear that one of the best ways to keep a marriage is strong is open and honest communication. When you are married all decisions, no matter how minute they may seem, should be discussed.
Recently I have made a boo-boo in this department and have learned a valuable lesson.
I had an opportunity arise. One that is huge in my creative career and would actually be fulfilling a dream. When the opportunity arose I jumped at it without thinking twice. It’s MY dream right? It’s what I have always wanted to do. Though it’s a great opportunity, it also means I’ll be gone for almost 10 days and my wife will be home alone in the evenings with our two sons. Of course did this cross my mind? Honestly, it did, a little, but I knew I could work it out to where it wouldn’t be too much of a burden.
Doesn’t matter though. It’s a decision I made without talking it over. With communicating openly and honestly with the love of my life. Utilizing the one tool that forms a strong relationship.
I know she supports me and wants me to do it. I know she is happy for me and encourages me to fulfill my dreams. But there is also the idea of dealing with two boys by herself at night that wears on her mind.
So what should we, and more importantly, I learn from this? When it comes to any decision you need to make that will effect your relationship, no matter if it’s small or large, talk it over before jumping to a decision. This will help prevent any hiccups and will allow both parties to be involved in the final outcome.
I am still going to fulfill this dream of mine. Deep down inside we both know it’s a huge boost to my career and can only come out with good things. But I’ve also vowed to take my family into account with any decision and to gain some stability in our lives through compromise and communication.
Consider this lesson learned.
